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aboomohammad
07-01-2005, 04:21 PM
Beauty Queens Outside and Slobs Inside?

In the West women dress with looks to kill outside the home and save the sweats and t-shirts for inside. Most women will look very beautiful while going outside of the house, but look like a slob inside the house.

The one of them spends at least an hour taking a shower in the morning, putting on makeup, fixing her hair, and making sure she will look snazzy and smell pleasant when she steps out the door.

When this sweetly scented woman steps back in the door, off goes the mini skirt and tight sporty jacket. The make-up is removed and on goes the sweats. When the husband steps in the door he is greeted with complaints and gets to fix his eyes on raggedy clothes and a tired worn out face.

What husband wants to come home to this scenario when he can stay outside and look at thousands of beautiful women that are flaunting their goods.

Some Muslim women have fallen into the same habit the non-Muslim women make. How long do they take to make sure they have the perfect colored scarf to match with the pink furry sweater they may wear that day. How often have they found themselves trying to find the perfect pumps to wear with that new jilbab? How many times have we seen a Muslim woman with perfectly plucked eyebrows and beautiful bright red lipstick with her hijab accenting her face?

Why is it we see our Muslim sister hurrying to get home from a gathering with her friends, her husband following shortly behind. Dinner is not ready, and jeans and t-shirt lie beneath the jilbab to greet her tired husband. The kids are filthy and have not had a nap. What do she say, but Oh, honey I'm sorry I talked too long, I guess tuna fish sandwiches and Campbell's soup will have to do for now.

Why is it dear sister, that you do not try hard to enchant your husband and catch his eye. All it takes is coming home a few hours earlier and preparing the house and putting on some nice clothes. Why not spray a little perfume and dab on a little makeup. Why not make sure there is dinner prepared or something is in the oven which will be ready shortly after your husband arrives? Why is it dear sister, you greet your husband with kitchen clothes and worn out eyes?

Next time, try a little surprise. Make your husband light up when he walks in the door. Wear something nice to catch his eye and say something nice to soften his heart. Make sure your house is clean and your children neat and appealing.

Why not dear sister, work hard to captivate him, as Allah knows best he works his hardest to take care of you.



Friday : 26/12/2003

barbara
07-01-2005, 05:37 PM
Alsalam Alikom Aboo,

I have read a couple of posts regarding how women should treat their husbands, but what about how husbands treat their wives. I understand that in the Muslim world it works both ways. As the husband expects the wife to treat him so should he treat his wife.

As far as your characterization of ALL western women going home after a hard day at work,(yes, western women do have jobs that are as demanding as their husbands jobs,) and changing into sweats, all I can say is NOT. When western women arrive home from work, they all don't have time to run upstairs and change clothes. More often than not, they have to begin preparing supper, get the kids cleaned up, make sure they've done their homework, set the table, throw some laundry into the washer, and then, if they are lucky they might have a few minutes to sit down and catch their breath. If they are real lucky, they have understanding husbands who don't mind pitching in and helping out. After 8 hours of work, and another 2 - 3 hours of work at home, I think that if the woman wants to change into sweats or jammies she darn well deserves it. Not to mention their husbands, who often fall asleep in front of the TV after dinner, do, too.

What happens to the Muslim woman who gets the flu? Does she still have to beautify herself in time for the hubbie's arrival? Does she still have to make sure the kids are clean? Does she still have to have a full dinner prepared when the sight of food makes her ill?

Your picture of the idyllic life is grand. And, if this were the 1940's and women did not have to work outside the home to help make ends meet, it would be dandy. I wish the world could work that way, but wake up and smell the coffee, it just doesn't happen.

Jazaki Allah Khayran

Barb

aboomohammad
07-01-2005, 06:35 PM
Alsalam Alikom Aboo,

I have read a couple of posts regarding how women should treat their husbands, but what about how husbands treat their wives. I understand that in the Muslim world it works both ways. As the husband expects the wife to treat him so should he treat his wife.

As far as your characterization of ALL western women going home after a hard day at work,(yes, western women do have jobs that are as demanding as their husbands jobs,) and changing into sweats, all I can say is NOT. When western women arrive home from work, they all don't have time to run upstairs and change clothes. More often than not, they have to begin preparing supper, get the kids cleaned up, make sure they've done their homework, set the table, throw some laundry into the washer, and then, if they are lucky they might have a few minutes to sit down and catch their breath. If they are real lucky, they have understanding husbands who don't mind pitching in and helping out. After 8 hours of work, and another 2 - 3 hours of work at home, I think that if the woman wants to change into sweats or jammies she darn well deserves it. Not to mention their husbands, who often fall asleep in front of the TV after dinner, do, too.

What happens to the Muslim woman who gets the flu? Does she still have to beautify herself in time for the hubbie's arrival? Does she still have to make sure the kids are clean? Does she still have to have a full dinner prepared when the sight of food makes her ill?

Your picture of the idyllic life is grand. And, if this were the 1940's and women did not have to work outside the home to help make ends meet, it would be dandy. I wish the world could work that way, but wake up and smell the coffee, it just doesn't happen.

Jazaki Allah Khayran

Barb
Hi barabara
I did not write that one just saw it some where adn decided to share it.what you asked for in in here as well how a man should make his wife happy.
we are just and fair here in Imanway
check this out http://www.en.imanway.com/showthread.php?t=257&highlight=make+wife+happy
enjoy!
Peace be with you
Aboo Mohammad

barbara
07-01-2005, 07:15 PM
wa Alikom Alsalam, Aboo :)

Shukran for the place to find the man's side of things. I had been told it was so, just never saw anything in writing, but had seen two posts about how women should behave.

As for the way western women behave, don't believe all that you read! LOL

Jazaki Allah Khayran

Fe Aman Allah

aboomohammad
08-01-2005, 12:48 AM
wa Alikom Alsalam, Aboo :)

Shukran for the place to find the man's side of things. I had been told it was so, just never saw anything in writing, but had seen two posts about how women should behave.

As for the way western women behave, don't believe all that you read! LOL

Jazaki Allah Khayran

Fe Aman Allah
Well I actually know Western women like the back of my hand I was raised with them most of my life.
Fee amanillah